The increasing rate of development taking place in the last centuries has improved people’s living standard, making our lives much more comfortable. Comfortable as it is, life is not easier as is supposed but more competitive and complicated. It turns to be much more difficult for a modern family to make both ends meet, and the model of family in which father is the only bread-winner while mother staying at home takes care for the whole family has become irrelevant in many countries nowadays, paving the way for the new model in which both parents have to participate in working to earn money. This situation, though relevant it would be in such a competitive world, still casts a doubt on many people, who remain skeptical about the negative impacts of parents’absence on the development of children. The others, however, believe that children stand to benefit from the additional income.
Firstly, let’s take the first opinion which states that parents’absence would lead to a lack of support to children. To a certain extent, I agree with this. As life has become more competitive, parents have to expend much more time and effort at work to guarantee a sustainable source of income for the whole family. As a result, time spared with their children have to be reduced. Some children, without parents observing, often find it difficult to self-orientate. They are likely to go with bad friends, getting involved in unhealthy activities. Other children, fortunately, do not become bad ones; however, a lack of support from parents may make them lose direction in their life, becoming autism due to the dsiappearance of the bond between children and parents. They may turn to friends for help; nonetheless, the help from friends cannot always replace the support from parents.
Some other people subscribe to a view that the situation in which both parents go to work is beneficial to their children. The first benefit, undoubtedly, is the additional income for family as a whole. Children in these families have more possibilities to approach better educational and medical service, which is favorable to their development. There still exist other benefits obtained from the practice. Children in lacks of support from parents tend to be much more independent. They are likely to have ability to make their own decisions without great dependence on their parents. This independence would be very helpful for their future. Other benefit would come from the emotional side. As we all know, parents have significant impacts on the process of shaping the personalities of their children. Children with working parents tend to be much more confident and independent because on observing the work of their parents, they are about to have better understanding about the world of careers, becoming familiar with workplace by listening to the stories about jobs shared by their parents, which in turn proves to be helpful to their future orientation. Some researches have shown that girls with working mother have tendency to be much more independentwhen they grow up and they are not likely to be desperate victim of gender inequality in their future families or workpplaces.
In the light of the above discussion, I, therefore, hold the idea that children stand to benefit from the fact that both parents go to work. The matter, however, lies in the balance parents strive for between work and family. If parents manage to balance their times spent at their workplace and family, their children’s development are certain to be guaranteed.