This post is prompted by an interview with Ms Le Diep Kieu Trang, posted on Tuoi Tre on March 14, 2013. This article makes me associate with the post of mine “The last lesson at university” I have written 3 months ago. I really love her idea of linking the life problem with the math problem we used to solve at schools:
“During time at schools, I am often afraid of the math problems with an infinite set of solutions. It is not the difficulty of the math problem that makes me afraid but the feeling of disbelief on my ability to find the right answer.
The same story will happen to us when we start to set our very first steps into the real life – where life is a chain of equations with infinite sets of solutions.
…Therefore, I found out that the world is made of various components and life is not as straight forward as schools, where the maximum score is only for one unique solution”
Some days ago, one of my best friends at university also wrote a note, recounting all of her regrets at university, notably, the regret of not making more close connections with those from professional network, the regret of not being decisive in learning Japanese and learning how to play an instrument. For the one who does not know her very well, they may console her by saying thing kind of “well, your university life is over, you have wasted 4 years at university”. However, from my point of view as one having observed her a lot, I have left a comment on her note, which helps her explain that she could not expect her life to be exactly the same as the successful seniors. She didn’t make close connections with those from professional network but she is an enthusiastic tour guide of Hanoikids and I believe that she has gained a diversified set of viewpoints from the tourists she has guided. She did not have time for Japanese but she has actively participated in lots of extracurricular activities and obtained many transferable skills. And I said to her that everything happens for a reason and thing that counts is that she has to put efforts on what she really likes and she will finally find out her own way to happiness.
So why should we have to follow others’ path while we are able to set up our own?